Many times, losing a loved one or something important to us feels like the end of the world. We have a hard time imagining life ever returning to normal, and we seek the comfort of others to get through this time. Unfortunately, there are many toxic messages in our culture about how we are supposed to handle grief, and when we don't follow the prescribed path that society has brainwashed us into accepting us, we can face rejection and hurt from the very people who we thought were supposed to comfort us. We get messages such as "your faith isn't strong enough", or "just get over it" or "you've been nursing this too long; you need to snap out of it!"

The lack of patience we receive from others can be painful, and the feelings of grief themselves are poignant enough without these messages. It can eat at our self esteem and cause us stress beyond what we need to experience. I have been working with grief as a psychologist and a volunteer at various organizations for over ten years, and I believe that each person has a right to experience his or her grief the way they see fit. It is a unique path for each one of us; some take very little time to readjust to life without their loved one, while for some it takes years. My role is to assist you in feeling supported, validated, and finding your way through the darkness and loneliness that often accompany grief. On the other side there is a path with meaning, dignity, and beauty; it is my job to help you find your way to that experience. You don't have to pretend to be strong for me, or apologize for feeling sad and melancholy. But you do need to keep moving forward, not for me but for yourself and your own growth. I can help you stay on that path and not get sidetracked into substance abuse, depression and suicidal thoughts.If you feel ready to embark on the journey toward wholeness and accept your grief and yourself as you grieve, I would be happy to participate. Please call me and let me be warm, compassionate and caring towards you. You deserve a safe place to be yourself!

Please call now to schedule an appointment so we can meet and decide how to help you through this difficult time. We can get through it together. My name is Lisa Larsen, PsyD (CA #PSY19046) and you can reach me at 661-233-6771. I look forward to speaking to you soon.