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Do You Enjoy Spending Time Alone?

Updated: Nov 29, 2023

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When you're comfortable in your own skin, spending time alone can be wonderful!

Spare time is highly coveted by many adults who have regular jobs. We dream of vacations to beautiful places, or engaging in our favorite hobbies, or just relaxing and watching television is enough to satisfy some. Not everyone feels comfortable spending time alone, however. It can be uncomfortable for people who do not enjoy their own company.

Are you Uncomfortable Spending Time Alone?

What is it like for you to spend time alone? Does spare time brings up all the negative thoughts and feelings you distract yourself from during the day or work week? Do you fill your time with other activities or perpetually helping others? There is nothing wrong with helping others or staying busy, if you choose to do it. If you feel compelled by fear to do this, there may be a problem. For example, if you are doing it to avoid being with yourself, it's no longer a choice and more an avoidance pattern.

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You can enjoy your work, but it's equally important to enjoy time off!

When I propose time off to you, or when it comes up in your life, what springs to mind? What emotions to you notice in yourself? Do you welcome the idea warmly? Do you feel ill at ease, like "what to do?" Is it frightening? Do you find yourself filling that imaginary time with obligations reflexively?

Weekends with Yourself

Just for kicks, you might want to think about your weekends and, if you don't usually work on Saturday or Sunday, what you typically do during that time. How much of the time is spent shopping for groceries, doing household chores, watching children, or something that you "have" to do?

How much time do you get to unwind and do something you actually want to do? Watching children is fun for many, and you love your kids, but even the most dedicated parents or caregivers want some time to can hear yourself think. It's normal to want to talk to people your own age about what's important to you.

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What do you say to yourself when you clear your mind?

Making Time for Yourself

How much of the time do you reserve for yourself? How much support do you get for "you" time? Is that something you'd like to change? Imagine what it would be like to carve out time for yourself automatically and guard it consistently. Does that make you feel relief? Envy? Fear? Does it strike you as "selfish"?

Ultimately, the time you spend with yourself can be gratifying, soul-saving and vitally important. If you have a fairly intense job with lots of stress or contact with the public, it is even more important to have time spent doing what you want with people you actually want to be around, or by yourself in comfort and ease. Now might be a good time to examine how you get along with you, and whether you want to improve that relationship.

Are you ready to clear the path to enjoyment of your own company? If you want to improve your time spent with yourself, please call to make an appointment: 661-233-6771.

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