The pain of loss and trauma can be overwhelming
The world can be a very scary place, and especially now with the coronavirus epidemic, people need to feel secure and safe. I am offering video therapy on SecureVideo, a HIPAA-secure platform.
When something terrible happens to you, you might feel very alone and frightened. This could be losing a loved one, being hurt by someone else, having your life rearranged by chronic illness, or being bullied at school or work.
It can also make you on edge, easily angered, checked out mentally, or feeling distrustful towards others. People around you might say that you've changed a lot and you may feel uncomfortable in your current relationships. Because of this, you may withdraw from people or avoid them altogether. It can be hard to enjoy yourself and look forward to a happy future. Your body may feel tense or numb. Memories of horrible things that happened to you might give you nightmares or keep popping into your head. It might be hard to stop worrying that you might suffer from the same thing as your departed loved one. The effects of the trauma can last for years if you don't address them sooner than later.
When it's too hard to cope with all of this alone, you might find it helpful to have someone who understands trauma and loss in your corner. You can open up and be honest about how they feel, and let go of the baggage from your horrible experience. It's likely that you'll find strength and courage you didn't know you had. You'll feel lighter and happier when you release those negative experiences. With EMDR Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and clinical hypnosis, I can help you get through this difficult period of time and emerge stronger and more resilient than before. Together we will work to move you past your past and truly let it go. Then you'll build a better life for yourself. The life you have wanted all along is within reach -- the life you know you deserve!
Working with people for the past 15 years has taught me a lot about what the human spirit can overcome. When people are given a supportive environment and a safe relationship, they can let down their guard and heal. I believe each of us has amazing resources that we don't even know about. I also help people learn new skills to feel better within themselves and get along better with others. It is my mission to help people find those resources and allow them to flourish and prosper in their lives. I offer psychotherapy and coaching, as well as consultation to other psychotherapists. My passion is helping trauma survivors enjoy life again, making their lives worth living and putting an end to unnecessary suffering.
I came to this work out of a desire to be of service to my community, for those who have suffered from traumatic events and seem stuck in low self-esteem and negativity. I was trained to be sensitive and responsive to people from many different cultural and ethnic backgrounds, and I proudly serve BIPOC clients as well as people from many different religious backgrounds.
It is a joy to see a person become empowered and able to live comfortably in the present, especially when they were trapped in a painful past. As Helen Keller said, "although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it." I believe that not only can we survive what happens to us, we can allow it to help us thrive and sometimes even reinvent ourselves as our better selves.
I work primarily with individual adults, but also children as young as six years old and adolescents. When working with children, I often involve the parents or caregivers in family therapy sessions. In addition to regular talk therapy, I do play therapy, including art and sand play, with children. When it seems that adult members of a family are not relating well to one another, I also work with adults in families.
I am an EMDRIA-certified EMDR therapist and find that EMDR Therapy is very helpful in helping people let go of their traumatic incidents from the past. My experience with clinical hypnosis has also helped people with anxiety, unwanted habits like over-eating and smoking, and depression. It is a joy
In past positions, I have also done group therapy, collateral work with significant others, other health care providers, and other people involved in my clients' lives. I have also done case management, referrals, and advocacy in past agency jobs.
Some of the places I have gained clinical experience include OMI Family Center, Kaiser Chemical Dependency Recovery Program, Los Guilucos Juvenile Facility in Santa Rosa and the John F. Kennedy Community Counseling Center. After receiving my license I worked at Episcopal Sanctuary and Walden House until I started my private practice in 2004. I moved to the Antelope Valley from the San Francisco Bay Area in 2009 and have a private practice here as well. My clients have been from a wide variety of various ethnic groups and socioeconomic backgrounds. I create a warm, supportive and affirming environment for LGBTQQIA youth and adults. I have worked with clients who are severely mentally ill, dually diagnosed with mental illness and substance abuse, as well as grief, anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. Trauma and grief can happen to everyone at some point in life.
Many of the people with whom I have worked have severe physical challenges and physical disability as well. To support people with environmental illnesses, I strive to provide a scent-free office. As someone who has health challenges, I understand that we all have strengths and we all have things we wish were different about our lives. The specific challenges vary from person to person. My job is to find the common element of suffering, understand it, and help you heal it. Together we bring your strengths to the forefront and find a way to triumph over your challenges. I am honored to help you with your unique challenges.
Please call me to set up an appointment today, at 661-233-6771.
I Specialize in Trauma and Grief Resolution
One of the most powerful tools I've used for trauma is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR Therapy). This helps resolve negative life events that get "stuck" in us emotionally and still hurt like yesterday. It often yields great success. I've been a Certified EMDR Therapist since 2008 by the EMDR International Association. I can also help you manage strong emotions like anxiety with clinical hypnosis. Once the crisis is over and you start to feel more stable, we build coping skills and help you feel more comfortable and present in your life.
When you lose someone important to you or suffer another significant loss, it can feel devastating. Yet grief can also signal the transition into a new phase of your life. Grief can also be a normal reaction to other big changes in life like divorce, moving to a new place, retiring, or changing jobs. It can knock you off balance and make you feel confused and lonely. Especially in times of turmoil in global and personal affairs, it can feel like a punch to the gut. Relationships can be hard to re-establish too. I can provide support and useful information to make the transition less painful and to bring meaning to your loss.
Clients I love to help
Trauma Survivors & Mourners
Children & Adolescents
People can be deeply hurt by many life events, including the loss of a loved one. Sometimes it can feel as though they will never "get over" their loss or traumatic event. They can have symptoms that disrupt their lives and make them miserable, leading to feeling lost and hopeless. PTSD can feel like you're stuck reliving the traumatic event; so can mourners get stuck with obsessive thoughts about their loved one. In many instances, these feelings are temporary but without the right support and in invalidating environments, the problems seem to drag on indefinitely. I have worked with trauma and grief for many years and enjoy helping them get "unstuck" so they can enjoy life again.
When upsetting things happen to children and adolescents, it can be even more difficult than for adults because they do not have the same coping skills and life experience that adults do. What adults may deem "rites of passage" or "just normal growing up" might be difficult for children to navigate. They may be traumatized or very disturbed by bullying, complex divorces, school failure, physical illnesses, medical procedures, in addition to obvious things like physical, emotional or sexual abuse. Worse yet, sometimes adults blame them for what happened. This makes it all worse! If you know a teenager or child who needs help, please call!
Having practiced in the San Francisco Bay Area, I have worked with many people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning. I help children, adolescents and adults cope with an unwelcoming society as well as relationship issues, self-esteem, and depression. I am not queer-identified. However, I consider myself an ally who is comfortable in helping you cope with issues like family rejection, homophobia, transphobia, identity issues, bullying, nontraditional families, harassment, and interpersonal violence. Every person deserves the right to love themselves unconditionally and enjoy life. I love helping people achieve that.