Couples Therapy

I see couples on a limited basis, and only in specific circumstances.

My deepest clinical work is in trauma, grief, and the lasting effects of minority stress. So when I work with couples, it's usually because one or both partners are carrying something heavy that's showing up in the relationship. Grief that hasn't been spoken. Trauma that's living in the body. The quiet exhaustion of navigating the world as a same-sex couple without enough places that truly understand.

If that resonates, we might be a good fit.

I don't offer long-term couples counseling or marriage repair in the traditional sense. But if you're a couple navigating deep loss, healing from trauma together, or looking for a therapist who genuinely understands LGBTQ+ relationships, I'm glad to talk.

A few things to know:
• I see a very small number of couples — I may not have immediate availability
• My approach is embodied, relational, and trauma-informed — not skill-building or communication-focused
• If your primary goal is improving communication or conflict resolution, I'm happy to refer you to colleagues who specialize in that

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What to Expect in a Trauma-Focused Couples Session

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If we work together, sessions won't look like traditional couples therapy. We won't spend much time on communication scripts or conflict-resolution strategies. Instead, we'll pay attention to what's happening in the room — the pauses, the body language, the old wounds that get activated mid-conversation. A lot of my focus is on helping each of you notice how your own nervous system responds in real time, and how that response impacts the other person. Not to assign blame, but to build awareness — so you can actually feel when something shifts between you, not just talk about it.It's slower and sometimes harder, but it's the kind of work that changes something underneath the surface.

Yes, let's regulate our nervous systems together!

Let's work together!

Rates and availability

I offer 80-minute sessions for couples at $295. Sessions are typically every two to three weeks — the work tends to land more deeply with space to integrate between sessions.

Start with a consult and we'll figure out whether this is the right fit — or I'll help you find someone who is.

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How I can help your relationship in couples therapy online

There was a time when your relationship felt good—or at least good enough for you to get together. Do you remember what drew you to your partner? Does your partner remember what they were attracted to in you? You may have lost sight of that, but you can rekindle your relationship with time and care. Even if you feel disconnected or hopeless now, that connection can be rebuilt in couples counseling.

Seeking outside help can make all the difference. When you're fighting with someone, you're too close to see how you each contribute to the conflict. You need a skilled, experienced couples therapist to observe the patterns and show you new, better ways to relate to each other.

If you're wondering about the couples therapy cost, think about the cost of not making your relationship a priority. The cost of loneliness, isolation, or even legal issues like divorce and custody battles can be far greater than the effort of working on your relationship. You don’t have to wait until your relationship is on the verge of breakup or divorce. In fact, addressing your problems when they are manageable makes much more sense. The things you say in fights cannot be unsaid, and they tend to leave lasting hurt and resentment.

What is couples therapy like?

Couples therapy is not just about addressing the problems. We tackle the big problems like infidelity, emotional distance, and the like, but we also cover what's going well for you. It can help to explore times when your relationship is going well – when you feel closer, have fun, and feel succeed together. I encourage you to look for the positive emotions in your relationship, as well as the ones that create storms. When you feel supported, hopeful, and secure, it becomes easier to find your way back to your partner and the relationship you both want and deserve to have.

In our couples counseling sessions, I will:

Help you uncover the patterns keeping you stuck and what drives your conflicts;
Observe how you interact and gently guide you toward more understanding and connection;
Teach you to recognize and repair negative cycles that push you apart;
Encourage empathy and respectful communication
Help you see both your perspective and your partner’s viewpoint;
Support you in making lasting changes, so conflicts become easier to navigate.

As you break negative cycles and strengthen emotional bonds, you’ll find healthier, more flexible ways to handle conflict—leading to a more fulfilling and lasting relationship. Whether it's marriage counseling or relationship counseling for nontraditional partnerships, your relationship can benefit from this type of support.

You deserve to feel connected, secure, and at peace with your partner. If you're ready to take the next step towards understanding your emotions and your partner’s needs and feelings, I look forward to hearing from you. Please call me or click the button below to get started.

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